Only freaks come out at night...

When I was younger my mom used to lecture me about going out late at night. She told me that only "bad people" come out at night and only "bad things" happen at night. My mom never elaborated on these bad things or bad people but anything that happened after 9 PM was BAD. I listened to what she was saying but always disregarded it because I thought she didn't know what she was talking about. The older I become and the more my mom's lectures make sense.

I met this man on sunday night that was just so damn fine. If you look in the dictionary under handsome his picture would be right next to it- ok, that's a slight exaggeration but you catch my drift. ;) So yeah, after we exchanged a few glances his eyes called me over and we started talking. (Did you know 70% of communication is non-verbal?). Everything he said just slid off this tongue so smooth, he had me smitten. I gave him my number and we chopped it up after the club for a little bit. He decides to text me today, the 31st, at 2:45 AM. I was awake (still am awake) but usually I sleep by midnight due to my working schedule. Anyhoo, he asks me to come over to kick it, as if asking someone to KICK IT AT 2:45 AM IS NORMAL. He is outside his MIND. His dime piece looks instantly dropped to a penny. Maybe even less. Now, if you look in the dictionary under slime-ball you'll see his picture. He's a prime example as to why I don't give my number out to men I meet at the club because like my mama said, "Only bad people come out at night."

"I got 5 on it..."

Stole this from Julie Law.
Copy and Paste it to your blog!


5 things that make you happy...
1. Being in good company. My family and friends.
2. Random acts of kindness.
3. Laughing at the random youtube videos Ava sends me. Random funny things.
4. RETAIL THERAPY.
5. Music. Doesn't take a lot to make me happy.

5 things that make you mad...
1. Hmm.... when I go into the fridge to grab something to eat and find that the box is empty! It always happens to me.
2. Rhetorical questions. Example: your boss asks you... "Do you think I'm stupid?"-- why would you ask me that? If I were to say yes you'd fire me and if I say no you'd think I'm lying anyways! It's a lose-lose situation and these type of questions are POINTLESS.
3. Beating around the bush. Just say it! lol
4. Allergies. Cats are the worst.
5. mmmm... I don't know? I don't really get mad. They're more pet peeves.

5 things you want in a relationship...
1. A man who puts God #1, family and then everyone else falls after that. Gotta have your priorities straight.
2. Trust. Trust me, I'll trust you. Trust makes everything easier. "See you don't have to worry about me, as long as you keep it real, whatever's on your mind, speak on how you feel, stay truthful to me, and never lie to me..." - lil wayne
3. Good conversation. Looks only go so far... if you can't hold a conversation it pretty much ends there...
4. Space. I can't feel smothered. Eke.
5. Someone who likes me for me.

5 random facts people may not know about you...
1. Ummm........ I can ride a unicycle. Now if I could juggle at the same time it would be entertaining.
2. I used to train to fight at chaisai - muay thai kick boxing. Anyways, my parents never wanted me to fight but I have a lot of energy! Hyper child.
3. I'm half puerto rican and half korean. Not mexican, philipino, chinese, japanese, somoan, indian, and no, I don't know how to cook teriyaki chicken-- ignorance is bliss. lol.
4. I like to write music as a hobby. At first I used to write a lot of classical piano music but lately I've branched over to r&b/slow jams. There's no better way to express emotion than through music.
5. I like to THINK I can freestyle when under the influence of alcohal. ha ha. It's stupid but it's fun, and Carissa likes to join me. We break it dowwwwwnnnn.. jk......

Ok, this took a LONG TIME.
AVA AND NAE I WANT TO READ THIS IN YOUR NEXT BLOGS.
LOL

A few good men.

"If you are 25 or older and you still sayin niggas ain't shit then you need to get a grip on yo life cause what you meant to say is... all da niggas you fuck with ain't shit and you need to find out what it is bout' yo pussy that keeps attractin ain't shit niggas..."
- Kat Williams

lol that quote's a little explicit but it's true. I believe it goes towards women of all ages. Don't get me wrong, I am not bashing on my own gender. I'm just sick of hearing friends/other girls complaining about how "all guys are the same"-- on the contrary, all guys are NOT the same. There are good men out there. They say that the worst pain you experience is self inflicted. If a guy is treating you bad, you're letting him treat you that way. People only do to you what you let them do! If your man is cheating on you and you're not strong enough to leave him that's your own fault.

like lil' wayne said...

"if he ain't gon' treat you right, then i ain't gon' treat you wrong..."

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Singles in between the ages of 20 and 60.
The blue circles indicate the most single men and the red are the women.
SO, LADIES, it looks like Seattle, Los Angeles/Long Beach (or anywhere in Cali for that matter), Phoenix, and Dallas Fort-Worth are your best bet. Oh, and St. Paul, Minneapolis. lol. Stay in the mid-west and the westcoast and you just might come across a man that isn't like the rest.

1st Timothy -
12 Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and purity.
14 Do not neglect your gift
15 Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them.

1 Th 5:18 - Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

1 day late.

:)

Love at First Sight

University of Bath and Match.com study reveals that true love grows with time. You may be able to meet a date at the double click of a mouse, true love blossoms with time.

University of Bath scientists working with the world’s leading dating and relationship company, Match.com, have found that true love grows over time – for men in particular.

- Univerity of Bath and Match.com

what's interesting is...

A survey, from the 2006, of 679 American men and women found that 30 percent had indeed fallen in love the moment they laid eyes on their partner.

- info from: WaynesBrownsMinitries.com


My thoughts?

First off, I don't know how it feels to be in love. I think of it more as lust at first sight. I see a male's physical appearance, the eye contact, the smile (particularly the teeth. I love teeth. haha) and if it all fits together in a nice medley I'm intrigued. After I become intrigued comes the initial contact-- which usually consists of a small conversation and if he's peaked my interest enough a phone number exchange. Then, there's the texting/phone conversation and if things go well there's a first date/meeting-- the "meeting stage" is rare because I'm picky as a m'fka and despise wasted time. Anyways, I had a chat with a friend about this topic earlier and she was a strong believer in love at first sight. I, on the other hand, need a little more than just what meets the eye to capture my love.

"Heartbreak Drake"

Drake- raw talent. Definitely underrated and nothing wrong with it. Anyways, he's still young and I'm sure he's going to blow-up in a matter of time. He did his own rendition on 'Swagger Like Us' and I'd vote his verse over all the other remixes of the single-- "I can rock skinny jeans cause my credit cards skinny". I encourage everybody to check out his mixtape that's about to be released.

Random Random Random

I'm not a "sneaker-head" but I saw these shoes on ultramaly.com-- (the cure to common boredom) lol. A nice little collectors item in tribute to the Supersonics, who are now Oklahoma Thunder? (correct me if I'm wrong).

Love is in the air-- at work. Nothin' wrong with some holiday lovin'. Everyone's love and happiness has rubbed off onto me and I feel...well... in love and happy! LOL. Everyone's happier when in love. I love love!

Co-worker just said... "If and buts and candy and nuts" -- I don't know what she was referring to but I thought it was funny.

I MISS ATLANTA!

WHAT'S YOUR SIGN?-- when I meet people I find that this question is almost always asked. I don't pay attention to horiscopes or anything that pertains to signs. Anyways, when a male asks me my sign and I say virgo they almost always give me this... *eye brows raised and a ever so slight look of disgust* along with, "OH. VIRGO." HAHA! I don't get it! Virgos are supposedly stubborn, selfish, self-centered, detail-oriented, etc. Being that my birthday lies on the 20th of September I am on the "cusp" of being a Virgo/Libra. BLAH! I don't get it. I AM NOT A VIRGO! I'M AN ESTHER! BLAH! Work's driving me nuts. Goodbye now.

Dec 1st, 2008!

I CAN NOT BELIEVE it's already DECEMBER!

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Jan 30th thru Feb 1st - Las Vegas for Soph's Birthday!
March 25th thru 29th - back to Atlanta
April - undecided - Steph's birthday. Puerto Rico/Cruise.
May 28th thru June 5th - Dallas
August 26th thru 30th - HOTlanta
(I should just move to ATL right? lol)

;)

I just want to dedicate this blog to my girl friends... God has blessed with me with such a diverse group of girls that I truly consider my best friends. Girls that I can confide in, share my goals with, laugh with, cry with, kick-it with, share my faith with and so much more. Not only are these ladies supportive but they're all SO different and that's what makes the bond special. I believe God brings people in and out of your life for a reason. He brought each person into my life at the RIGHT time. I'm so thankful for the girlfriends I have. :)

After reading Ava's blog I've decided to read the Purpose Driven Life. I've had it for forever and read it back in 2004? Lol. I got it as a graduation gift. I need a refresher so I thought I'd start up again.

Rise up, this matter is in your hands. We will support you, so take courage and do it.
Ezra 10:4

REALLY REALLY WANNA!

I CAN'T WAIT TIL YOU COME BACK AVA!

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I need/want/going to buy...

- a Mac Book. I want a black one but it's more expensive than the white one. So I might just have to settle for a white one. Even though I'd really like a black one. UGH. White it is!

- BOOTS. I have my flat black boots from Urban Outfitters but I need some dressy boots! It's winter and I want something snazzy to wear when I go out!

- to join a new gym. I've been going to the downtown YMCA but I don't like it. I see too many familar faces, the eliptical machines with the tvs are ALWAYS occupied during the time I want to go, MEN stare too much and they don't have a steam sauna. I actually did a session of pole fitness and really enjoyed that. Although, it was EXTREMELY hard and I had bruises all over my legs from gripping the pole like a monkey. It's NOT as easy as it looks!-- PROPS to all the pole dancers/strippers out there! Anyways, I've also considered doing latin dancing lessons. Learn to shake it like Shakira while getting a work out! I'm waiting for a call back from the dancing instructor and I'll go from there. I wish I was one of those people who are natually skinny and just eat whatever they want! Curse these puerto rican genes!

That's pretty much all I NEED. I don't really NEED a Mac Book or boots but I really really want them to the point where they're basically a need. BAH! I DO NEED to start some form of exercise though. I've been eating healthier which is good. I've noticed the increase in my energy and I've lost some weight. Not enough weight though! I have this image in my head and until my body replicates that image I WILL NOT BE SATISFIED. I want to be nicely toned before I have a baby! If I don't it'll be even harder to reach my ideal body!

Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you.

Isaiah 41:10

On with the new!

- The blackberry bold is set to be released November 4th! Super stoked. I ruv my blackberry! I ruv new gadgets!

- After a stressful week I allowed myself to some MUCH NEEDED retail therapy. Yeah, I blogged about saving money but it was money well spent! I gave myself a budget and still had money left over! Twas a good day of food and shopping.

- I'm ready for a new scene. I'm ready to take over the world! (jk. kind of). I have so much energy that I can't stand staying home! I go to Atlanta next month for a few days and after that it's on with the new. I want to pop bottles with Diddy in Nyc, soak my feet in Miami beach with latino hotties, drank a corona in Cabo San Lucas, visit Obama in DC at the white house (he will be president ;)), go to a rodeo in Dallas, eat a philly cheesesteak in Philly, eat some gumbo in New Orleans, gamble in Atlantic City and see the sunset in Maui. There's so many places I want to explore within the United States! After I've traveled the U.S. it's on to the forgien lands!

- The time is near! I don't like discussing my future plans with anybody but my family and a select few. I like to keep my goals written down and my eyes on the prize. With so many options and decision to make I get stressed out at times. Like now for instance... I should be winding down on a glass of wine and shakin my groove thang. Instead, I'm at home on a friday night with bonchitis, my constant wandering mind and endless possibilities-- for my future. Sometimes there are times that I know EXACTLY what I want and where I'm going. Then, another door of opportunity opens up! I wish God would close all the doors and leave one open. This is where faith and prayers comes into play. Gotta keep praying.

R&B ain't what it used to be

Boyz II Men, Avant, Joe, D'angelo, Brian McKnight, Donell Jones, Faith Evans, Lyfe Jennings, Mint Condition, Jagged Edge, Tyrese, Tank, Maxwell - some of my favorite R&B artists. It's hard to compare the R&B artists of today to the ones from back then. Old school R&B was the best. Don't get me wrong... there are some credible artists today such as; Ne-Yo, Trey Songz, Robin Thicke, Raphael Saadiq and Mario to name a few-- they are doin' the damn thang.


1. Comeback - Donell Jones
2. Heaven in My Eyes - Shawn Powell
3. My Body - Tank
4. Finally Know - Boyz II Men
5. How Does it Feel - D'Angelo
6. Nothing Left to Say - Mint Condition
7. Separated - Avant
8. Let's Get Married - Jagged Edge
9. Get To Know Ya - Maxwell
10. Must Be Nice - Lyfe Jennings


Not necessarily my top 10 but some of my favorite songs!

Music makes me happy (:

Brandenburg Concerto No. 3 - is my favorite concerto by Bach. I remember playing it in highschool and again for the Tacoma Youth Symphony back when I was about 13 years old. MEMORIES! It's crazy how our brains can associate songs to an instance in our lives. Out of all the music genres classical music is by far my favorite to practice. I've been practicing a lot of pieces by Rachmoninoff. He's been my biggest challenge since starting the piano and I love a challenge!

Tha Joker - Blow Ya Back Out - I've recently discovered this artist and song while on the hunt for some new slow jams. I wouldn't put the song in the slow jams category... it's more r&b I should say. It reminds me of old school R. Kelly-- the nasty old school R. Kelly. The song is provocative. It brings me back my younger years when I used to sing along to songs and had NO IDEA of their meanings. I listen to them now and I'm like really? I used to sing along to that? I would never want my kids repeating those lyrics! haha! Anyways, this artist has a real southern feel. I like!

Shit Happens

My homegirl's car was broken into thursday and our purses + wallets were stolen. Her passenger side window was broken and there was glass EVERYWHERE. We had several cuts trying to get the glass off our jackets. Whoever broke into the car wasn't very smart because they had dropped their cellphone. It was under the seat and completely covered in glass. I wouldn't have even found it if we didn't clear off some glass. I had to cancel my cards and all that good stuff. It seemed as though the break-in was planned because 15 minutes after we left the car charges were already made on my cards. CRAZY! I despise people who get money the dirty way. Car jackings, identity theft, selling drugs, etc. I work hard for my mother effing money! I've got bills to pay! Then these money hungry f*ckers who don't know how to get off their LAZY ASSES and get a LEGIT job go off and steal from people who work hard. SHIT'S NOT RIGHT!-- hehe. It's all good though. Life has moved on and all my money was reimbursed from the bank. SHIT HAPPENS and life goes on and dumbass thieves need something better to do then ruin people's lives! NOTHING IN LIFE IS FREE.

Change is good.

I took some time last night to go through my bank statements. After sifting through all my account information I came around to ask myself... WHY the HELL don't I have more than I should in my savings? and aside from bills, WHERE does my money go? Answer to my questions: Food, food, buying drinks when going out, food, gas, clothes, more food, more gas, food. UGH! So then I decided I need a solution to this madness...

1) No more coffee every morning before work. We have a coffee machine at work and I just need to be more self sufficient. Coffee is a luxery that I can afford to dispose. Stupid Starbucks and their stupid skinny iced vanilla lattes of death.

2) Stop going out so much. I don't know what it is but I CAN NOT stay in during the weekends. After a long work week I feel the need to let loose and get my eagle on. Dancing helps relieve stress and so does a drink or two. Shiet! lol. BUT COME ON NOW, EVERY WEEKEND? It's not that clubs/lounges take up my money it's the alcohal. Drinks add up! It's time to take advantage of my Hollywood video membership and start doing movie nights. Less going out = less money spent on gas and less money spent on drinks.

3) SHOPPING. This one is a disease, I swear. I like new clothes. What can I say? I am a female and we like NEW. I'm one of the MANY females that open up their closet everyday and say... "I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR." while starring at a closet full of clothes and some with tags still attached. As long as I'm working hard for my money there's nothing wrong with a little shopping, right?............ WRONG!!! There's no need for shopping every weekend for a new outfit to go out. This one will be one of the hardest things to work on but it must be done.

4) FOOD! I LOVE FOOD. I love trying new restaurants and discovering new foods to satisfy my ever-so-curious taste buds. Eating makes me happy! -- WOW ok, I'm starting to sound a little weird. ANYWAYS, I NEED TO START GROCERY SHOPPING AND EATING AT HOME. Food and gas is where the majority of my money goes to. Curse this stomach! CURSE IT!

In conclusion, in efforts to better my money management, I've decided these are things I AM GOING to work on. Starting tomorrow. Hopefully in a month I'll be able to see an increase in savings. With this saved money I can do more traveling!

In addition to my efforts to save money, I also want to put in more effort in being a better person. This is an everyday, self conscious reminder. TRYING to make sure I treat others the way I want to be treated, praying for my family and friends, going out of my way to make someone's day, something small to help my parents, etc. I feel like the little things add up but I want to do more. I want to donate 30% of my earings to something other than MYSELF. This all goes leads back to my money spending problem... now, if I had more money maybe I'd be able to spend 30% of my earnings on somewhere it would actually be useful/needed. I told myself last night that I'd start these things in 2009, sorda like a new years resolution, but I'm going to start now.

Biggie said, "mo' money, mo' problems" but I say, "mo' money, LESS problems." Holla if you hear me.

RANDOM RAMBLING

Sundays are the favorite day - It's my most relaxing day of the week. I just chill and relax to prepare myself for a 5-day work week. Speaking of work, I'm so thankful for my job. I have the best boss and co-workers in the world. I thank God for this.

Atlanta Part II - A few girls and I have planned another trip to the dirty souf'! For myself and Kim it'll be round two and for a couple others it'll be poppin' their southern cherry! lol. Out of all the cities I've traveled to Atlanta is my top 2. The southern hospitality, food, night-life, just everything about the south puts me in a good mood. It's one of the most laid-back cities in the world and I can't wait to go back!

Peruvian cuisine is so good! I LOVE FOOD. I LOVE TRYING NEW FOODS.

Comfort

Praise be to God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.

2 Corinthians 1: 3-4

For if I grieve you, who is left to make me glad but you whom I have grieved? I wrote as I did so that when I came I should not be distressed by those who ought to make me rejoice. I had confidence in all of you, that you would all share my joy. For I wrote you out of great distress and anguish of my heart and with many tears, not to grieve you but to let you know the depth of my love for you.

2 Corinthians 2: 2-4

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Just when I needed some reassurance and comforting God introduced me to a girl, who is now a good friend of mine and I'm SO thankful. When I read that verse it always takes me back to that time in my life when I felt like everything was falling apart. It was hard to keep faith because everything was happening so quickly. Just as fast as everything fell God was right there to build it back up. Through my hardships he built an even stronger foundation. If I never went through it I would've never experience the love and comfort I felt from God during that time. They say you can't truly enjoy the good until you've been through the bad. She came at the right time and I knew it was God sent. I have the best friends in the world. (:

Oxytocin

"Sexual activity released oxytocin, the bonding hormone, and it's very strong in women," says psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD. "It's easy for a woman to think she's having fun, and then her body takes over and she starts developing feelings for a guy."

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Oxytocin: Recent studies have begun to investigate oxytocin's role in various behaviors, including social recognition, bonding, anxiety, trust, and maternal behaviors. - From Wikipedia, the free online encyclopedia

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After reading a recent article of Cosmo I found this interesting. I always wondered why it was that men can go around, hook-up with 50 females and only like 1 of them. Where as women get attached to the men they choose to hook-up with-- whether or not they like to admit it. Which is the main reason I'm against casual sex/random hooking up. It's not my cup of tea. Relationships are also not my cup of tea, for now. The article was also interesting because it covered how dating has changed over the years. In the past, dates were often serious/romantic and men took women to dinner and a movie at the theatre. I feel it hasn't changed much but people my age (early 20's) don't often go on "romantic" dates anymore. From personal experience I find that males would rather me go over to their homes to watch a movie... okay... yeah... a movie... RIGHT. Like a movie is the only things on their minds. Which is why I don't like going on dates unless they're out in public. lol. Ok this blog is getting long goodbye.

Who had the best verse on Swagger Like Us?

A mixed vocal sample by M.I.A. has all the rappers flowin' about their swag. Jay Z had the best verse in my opinion! I wish I could say it was Weezy because he is my overall favorite rapper buuuuuut Jay killed it. Jay Z, Andre 3000, Jeezy and Nas are all going to be on part II of Swagger Like Us on Jay Z's upcoming album, the Blueprint 3 (and he supposedly retired, right? haha).

Jim Jones was fired up about not being invited to be on the remixes. He came out with his own version of Swagger Like Us and disses Jay Z. Go figure. The beef between them has yet to subside itself. I don't understand why he can't just be like P. Diddy and do his own rendition of Swagger Like Us. Whatever.

CHERISH THE OLD, EMBRACE THE NEW.

I'm a big fan of Slum Village. As most of you know Elzhi, the former member of Slum Village, has branched out with an album of his own-- LOVIN' IT. Just copped this album a few days ago and it's been in my cd player ever since. I need to start putting my iPod to use. Anyways, he did a free show on the 13th of September and I was in Atlanta. Sucky. This album = hot like fiyah!



She's the new female voice of hip-hip/neo-soul whatever you wanna call it, she's it. The next Lauryn Hill-- it may be a little far fetched of me to make that bold of a statement considering this is her first album BUT I'm lovin' her sound. While in Atlanta she was all over the radio! Atlanta loves Jazmine Sullivan and so do I! Off-topic but what happened to Lauryn Hill? Hm?

MUSIC MUSIC MUSIC!

My first blog ever.

Nas is a lyrical GENIUS. Out of all his albums I am... (released in 99') was my #1, then Stillmatic (2001) bumped I am out of the #1 spot. His newest album Nas kicks both out the water. Nas is able to convey his thoughts into poetic rhyme schemes that form fluidly into a rap song. It's art in the form of sound. NOW, if that's not talent I don't know what is. I don't know if it's my love for Nas as an artist, or my love for music, or my love for music that makes me appreciate Nas as an artist, but his new album is off the chain! It's artists like Nas that fill my soul with passion. Music is my passion!

Music is what feelings sound like - Author Unknown